Yesterday I got some bad news. An upcoming video partnership feel through. I was devastated. Not only is the brand wonderful (I’m a big fan), they were offering me a sponsorship that I had planned on reinvesting into my blog. It was enough to cover most of the cost of a new camera and a desktop computer (this little laptop is off to pasture soon). It was a dream opportunity… but it just wasn’t going to work out.
In my sadness, I started inadvertently throwing a pity party. I do these from time to time. I just sulked, sulked, sulked. An old habit from my high school years, no doubt.
My pity parties have upgraded the past few years though. There is a method to the madness.1. Sulk (in moderation). Lay down in bed, ponder, and come up with a million alternate scenarios of “what if.” However, don’t do so for more than two hours.
This may sound crazy but I see nothing wrong with acknowledging the big bummer scenario you are in, as long as you set an end point. You can’t sulk all day.2. After you acknowledge your bad scenario, do something fun. What have you been wanting to do but you haven’t had the time?
My answer to this question is face masks and mani/pedi. I haven’t painted my toe nails in literally two months. They didn’t look pretty.3. The final step, what little things do you love to indulge in (different from the fun in step two)?
My favorite indulgence is TV shows and movies. I love to have marathons and become engrossed in characters. So, I watched episodes of Roswell and Pretty Little Liars. It was nice. I just vegetated in bed with my computer in my lap watching Netflix and Hulu.
Why is this the right way to pity party? Because the next morning feels great. I’m completely invigorated. New energy for a new day. Time to start over.
Yes, that particular brand partnership would have been great. It just wasn’t the right time. Something else is right around the corner, I know that now.