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June 25, 2015

The Imperfect Me – Comparing Myself to Others

Comparison is the thief of joy,

Recently one of my favorite vloggers, BubzBeauty, released a video on being imperfect. I thought it was so moving that I had to share it with you and open up a discussion about the topic.


I feel like as women we put so much pressure on ourselves to be perfect or to be more like someone else. It’s a hard cycle to break out of, especially when a lot of the media we read and watch has to do with appearances. This video was a good eye opener on the topic, especially Bubz’s comparison of a cheese grater to an apple slicer. It was a great metaphor in regards to what we do and say to ourselves.

And it’s not just about beauty. I’m a victim of comparing my current status in my life and career to others. I tell myself all these weird reasons as to why I’m not good enough, like the fact that I don’t have as much in my savings as I want to. That’s just not a normal way to judge my character.

What I should do is be nicer to myself. I shouldn’t beat myself up over the fact that after a really stressful day I didn’t feel like working out. I shouldn’t think I’m not good enough because I had to deplete a lot of my savings while I was unemployed. I’ve been on an amazing journey, both physically and emotionally. I have grown up in so many ways and have become a much stronger and better person than I was in the past. That is a wonderful thing that I should be celebrating.

So I have a little challenge for you and myself to follow. This is based on an older post, My Top Tip For Starting a Positive Outlook.

How to stop comparing yourself to others

To become aware of all of the times we compare ourselves to others, we need to acknowledge the feelings as they come and then create rebuttal statements so we can let that comparison go.

For example, if you think..

  • She has a much slimmer waist than I do.

Add to the end of that statement something good about yourself. It now becomes…

  • She has a much slimmer waist than I do but I like my larger waist line because the curves look awesome in my bikini.

By creating positive rebuttal statements we are taking away the power that the beginning of the sentence has on us. But be weary, don’t let rebuttal statements turn you into a mean girl.

Bad example of a rebuttal statement:

  • She has a much slimmer waist than I do but my ass looks a hell of a lot better than hers.

That is not a positive statement because you are tearing someone else down with it. Be careful not to fall into that trap.

What are you going to celebrate about yourself? What kind of rebuttals can you come up with? Let’s talk about our wonderful strengths in the comments.

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  • Ayu Frani

    Hi, Rebecca.
    I like your article about “imperfection”. I also have a problem with my body. especially my skin. I have so many scar in my skin, from head to toe. I feel embarrass about it. But, I realize that this is me including the imperfection.
    Stay inspires other,..

    Ayu Frani

    July 5, 2015 at 10:49 pm Reply
    • Rebecca Kelsey Sampson

      Hi Ayu! Thank you for the comment. I believe that scars can be really character building. They really show how far you’ve come as a person, like a story of your strength.

      July 8, 2015 at 9:56 am Reply

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