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April 11, 2016

Why (and How) I Kept My Pregnancy a Secret for Five Months

Easy calendar pregnancy announcement.

Surprise! Chris and I are expecting a bundle of joy this September.

I am currently 19 weeks and 4 days pregnant, just 3 days shy of being 5 months along.

Here is a happy video sharing the news and going into my symptoms for up to week 16:

It was not my intention to keep this secret for so long. I had initially only planned on waiting until the first trimester passed (three months) but some other factors came into play that made me and my husband want to keep things under wraps a little longer.

It all started December 2015 when I began feeling symptoms very shortly after conception. At the time, I thought I was insane for wondering if I was pregnant because I was taking birth control pills. As it turns out, there are so many factors at play with hormonal birth control that any mishap can mess up the whole system. That little misstep led Chris and I to a little miracle, baby EJ.

We’ve been calling our bundle baby EJ because we aren’t going to be able to find out the sex until April 15 and Chris and I have had our baby names picked out for years. EJ is short for Emma Aurora and Jack Douglas, we’ll know for sure who is joining our family later this week.

When we first found out, the day after Christmas last year, there was a few weeks of panic. I had been working freelance all of 2015, with varying successes. I was (and still am) really proud of the amount of work I was able to get, but with a third mouth on the way we knew freelance was no longer an option for us.

So we both started looking for more work. I started getting a few hopeful bites and interview requests quickly, and around three months I was up for a job in the marketing department at a local accounting firm. After one month of interviewing, it ended up not working out.

So, the secrets started building. At this point several of our family members were aware that we were having financial concerns and because of that, we didn’t want to add in the extra worry that we knew they would feel once they found out we were expecting.

My Mom found out about the baby shortly past the three-month mark, mostly because she was noticing differences in me before anyone else did, so it was nice to vent with her, but I also felt guilty over how much concern she had for us. It just solidified our decision to keep everyone in the dark until a new job was eminent.

It was another month of hiding until I started getting traction with my resume again and two companies in advertising seemed very interested in me, so after a second round of interviews (at about four months pregnant) we started telling our family and close friends. At this time it was becoming a lot harder to keep my weight gain a secret and emotionally it was taking too much of a toll to constantly judge my appearance, so we decided that at least the people we saw the most frequently should be brought into the loop so I would only have to worry about my weight during interviews.

Pregnancy photos week 16, 17, 18, and 19.

I’ve popped!


There were a lot of shocked faces (and about three people that surprised us by saying they had noticed a few clues), but overall the responses were so positive that our hearts felt warm again and we were able to celebrate with our family in private.

Two days later, I got a job at AB&A Advertising. It was such a joy, but also another level of fear. How can I keep my pregnancy a secret at work?

A week and a half after starting my new job, I knew I needed to fess up. It was the responsible thing to do, since I knew the earlier my job could prepare for my leave the better, and the reveal was also needed to keep me happy emotionally, as focusing on my looks so much was only alienating me from what should be a happy time.

So, I got to work early one day and started speaking with my supervisors. To my immense relief, I was met with happiness. While, of course, practical questions came up (as they should), I had found myself with a wonderful and supportive team. I couldn’t be happier to be with AB&A Advertising. I know now that I am exactly where I need to be.

For the few months I kept my pregnancy a secret from friends and family, as well as through the interview process and at work, these are the steps I followed to keep my baby bump hidden.

How I kept my pregnancy a secret:

  1. Establish that you rarely drink caffeinated beverages (and other pregnancy no-nos) from the get-go. During my onboarding, I was given pizza and soda to celebrate (which was so fun) but I made sure to mention how I rarely have soda since caffeine makes me jittery “so this really feels like a treat.” My office loves coffee, so this gave me an excuse to always say no.
  2. Establish a love for hydration. Since I was going to the bathroom very frequently at this point in the pregnancy, I made sure I always had a large water bottle at my desk so that I’d have a reason to get up often. Finding other reasons, like talking to someone on the other side of the office, also made it easier to feel comfortable taking more bathroom breaks.
  3. Wear baggy clothing and layers. Since my office was business casual, I had a lot more leeway in the outfit department. I went on a shopping trip right before starting so that I could buy some high quality larger clothing that I could grow into. The baggy clothes kept my bump hidden, with the addition of jackets, cardigans, and sparkly jewelry that brought more attention to my upper body than my lower. See some of my outfits here and here.
  4. Wear flared skirts and skater skirts. My favorite outfit for when I was bloated included my white flared pleated skirt from Plato’s Closet. The purposeful shape made it easier for my belly to expand comfortably without being obvious.
  5. Buy maternity SpanxThere are safe versions of Spanx for pregnant women so that they can smooth the lines of their body while also minimizing thighs and butts without putting pressure on your baby. Since I was feeling bigger in those areas, this became a dress staple for me. It wasn’t comfortable, not by a long shot, but it made me feel more confident in my outfits. Belly bands are also really helpful to expand your wardrobe.

While I don’t recommend people to keep their pregnancies a secret for so long, these tips helped me keep it under wraps while I figured out my next move.

And today, at 19 weeks and 4 days, I’m now sharing my happy news with my extended friends and blog followers. No more hiding. It’s time to celebrate.

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  • Robin Rue (

    I can’t keep a secret to save my life and keeping my first pregnancy under wraps for 12 weeks almost killed me. I ended up spilling to my mom at 9 weeks.

    April 12, 2016 at 9:49 am Reply
  • Terri Steffes

    It was fun to meet you and congratulations! The video was fun. Good luck with your job. I hope you will still be blogging!

    April 12, 2016 at 10:06 am Reply
  • michele

    I can’t believe you kept a secret that long hah! But it s totally your privacy and your life. I totally get why you kept it a secret.Great post xx

    April 12, 2016 at 11:38 am Reply
  • Jessica

    Yikes! What a difficult thing to do! I don’t think I could have ever kept it that long – especially baby #2 – I popped RIGHT away and people knew around 7 weeks… nothing I planned on! Best of luck with everything!

    April 12, 2016 at 4:45 pm Reply
  • tp keane

    Congratulations on your bundle of joy, I wish you all the health and happiness that comes with it all. Love him/her, and laugh instead of cry.

    April 12, 2016 at 8:47 pm Reply
  • Ana De- Jesus

    Aw congratulations hun you are glowing, you may have kept it a secret but it was for valid reasons. I hope the pregnancy goes well.

    April 13, 2016 at 4:10 am Reply
  • Heather

    Congratulations on your pregnancy! I think that with my oldest I told my boss around 6 weeks, but for our third child, we didn’t tell anyone except my mom until I was around 5 months pregnant. It was quite the shock to my in-laws!

    April 13, 2016 at 8:17 am Reply

    What a beautiful journey. We truly believe that when it’s supposed to happen it does, despite BC pills and such. Glad you got a steady position and seem to be very happy. ENJOY!

    April 13, 2016 at 9:59 am Reply
  • Eva / Kid Minds

    What a relief you can finally talk about it! Congratulations! I’m so happy for you! Children are such a blessing (that’s why I keep having them).

    April 13, 2016 at 7:49 pm Reply
  • Laci

    Congratulations !!!! We kept ours a secret for a while to cause we wanted to and I wanted to make sure it would all be okay

    April 13, 2016 at 8:16 pm Reply
    • Rebecca Kelsey Sampson

      That seems to be the common practice where we live too, just typically not as long as we did.

      April 15, 2016 at 3:19 pm Reply
  • Ron

    Wow. What a story. Congratulations! So happy for you. Such a blessing indeed!

    April 14, 2016 at 10:13 am Reply
  • LeAnne

    Congratulations. that’s awesome that you found a new position and are able to shout from the rooftops about your pregnancy.

    April 14, 2016 at 10:28 am Reply
  • Mardene Carr

    It really is your secret to tell whenever you are ready and not a day earlier. Congratulations

    April 15, 2016 at 7:17 pm Reply
  • CourtneyLynne

    Omg 5 months?!?! I made it to about 12 weeks and couldn’t hold it in any longer lol… Congrats

    April 15, 2016 at 8:01 pm Reply
  • Toughcookiemommy

    Keeping your pregnancy a secret must have been so stressful for you. I’m glad that you have been able to share the wonderful news with everyone finally and prepare for your impending blessing.

    April 15, 2016 at 9:47 pm Reply
  • Megan McCoig

    I can never keep a secret, but you done so well! Congratulations :)

    April 16, 2016 at 4:26 am Reply
  • karissa Ancell

    Congratulations on your upcoming baby. That is awhile for you to keep your pregnancy a secret. It seems like it will help your pregnancy seem to go by fast to everyone though.

    April 16, 2016 at 10:40 pm Reply
  • nicole torres

    That is so adorable how you compared the baby to foods. I think you should create posters. Good luck and congrats.

    April 21, 2016 at 6:52 am Reply
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