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In Happiness, My Journal on
January 3, 2017

Don’t Put Your Wishbone Where Your Backbone Ought To Be

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I’ve always been a dreamer. Every year my dreams get bigger and I always believe they will come true. I love that about myself. I don’t doubt that things are going to work out how I want them too. The only problem is, in recent years I’ve spent a lot less time executing those dreams. It’s like Katherine Paterson says, a dream without a plan is just a wish. I’m committed to wishing less and doing more in 2017.

One way I’m switching things up from my usual SMART goals system is by having a word of the year focus. While I do still have some specific goals, they are guided by this one word. Read more

In Happiness, My Journal on
September 11, 2015

70+ Amazing Things to Live For

Love the life you lead

Hi Kind Friends!

You may remember that a few years ago I completed a blog series called 100 Reasons to Be Happy. It was a very motivating experience. Last night I decided to turn to a fresh page in my notebook and mimic that experience by writing down as many things that I love as possible. The page ended up holding 74 amazing things to live for.

Some of them are particular to my life but many of them are general enough to apply to anyone. This list is not in any particular order, it just has things written down as I thought of them.

  1. Love
  2. My husband
  3. Children
  4. Family
  5. Cookies
  6. Writing
  7. Reading
  8. Characters
  9. Crispy chicken
  10. Self expression
  11. My blog
  12. Hot and sweet coffee
  13. Cold fresh water
  14. Yoga
  15. Hugs
  16. Small smiles
  17. Cat meows
  18. Dog cuddles
  19. Goal reaching
  20. Star gazing
  21. The feeling I get when Chris does little sweet things for me
  22. The high after a workout
  23. The drama of a good TV show
  24. Finally getting something I have been waiting a long time for
  25. Acceptance
  26. Indulgences
  27. Kindness
  28. Praise
  29. Sugar
  30. A clean home
  31. New discoveries
  32. A few buzzed nights
  33. Helpful massages
  34. Sensual massages
  35. The thrill of a bet paying off
  36. The happiness of seeing families grow
  37. Funny haikus
  38. Plants I can actually keep alive
  39. Thrilling conclusions to trilogies
  40. Anything Harry Potter
  41. Having people that care about my opinion
  42. The revival of The X-Files
  43. Alien life
  44. The fact that the truth is out there
  45. Pretty washi tape
  46. DIY projects that go well
  47. Learning from mistakes
  48. Good curly hair days
  49. Family heirlooms
  50. Cute viral videos of babies and pets
  51. Productive days
  52. Baby’s breath
  53. Happy memories
  54. Fresh notebooks
  55. Filled notebooks
  56. New technology
  57. Working from home
  58. Pretty patterned stationary
  59. Growing through dirt and becoming a flower
  60. Cuddling with Chris inside on a rainy day
  61. Dainty jewelry
  62. Lullabies
  63. Likes on Instagram
  64. Sweet scented candles
  65. Meeting a challenge
  66. Slow kisses
  67. Interesting dreams
  68. Mermaid suits
  69. Trees
  70. Salt lamps
  71. Natural skincare
  72. Family dinners
  73. Glitter
  74. Big sweaters

What do you love to live for? What makes your days fun or de-stresses you after a long day?

I’d love to read some of your responses in the comments.

In Happiness on
August 21, 2015

Pros and Cons of Rainbow Book Order

Rainbow book order pros and cons

Just in case you haven’t noticed, I’m here to tell you that I have been obsessed with reading this month. Reading turns Muggles into magic wielders, takes us on adventures, helps us escape tough situations, and brings dreams to life. I’m deep diving in books!

I’m going to actually be posting exclusive book videos on my YouTube channel that won’t be showing up on my blog so make sure you have subscribed there as well. Additionally, my book videos are being brought to you by the Audible affiliate program. Grab a free book on me using audibletrial.com/rebecca!

Since I’ve purchased some new books recently, I was running out of space. So I completely reorganized my book shelf to be a rainbow book order. If you’ve never seen this before, you basically organize your books by the color of their spine so that all together the spines of the books resemble a rainbow.

Having trouble remembering the rainbow? Remember Mr. Roy G. Biv

Red, Orange, Yellow, Green, Blue, Indigo, Violet

Apparently I have a lot of brown and black books so I added those last. Alternatively you could also do a general ombre like blue to pink.

Examples:

Rainbow order bookshelves pros and cons

Pros:

  • Looking at the rainbow books makes me happy
  • It was a fun creative organization project

Cons:

  • You have to memorize your books by color rather than searching by genre or alphabetical order
  • It takes up a lot of space since none of the books can be stacked horizontally

Well, that wasn’t as many pros and cons as I thought I would come up with! Oddly, remembering books by their cover color hasn’t been that difficult since I’m a visual learner.

I remember in open book tests in college I would look up an answer by visualizing how far down the page I read about that fact. Have you ever done anything like that?

Watch me reorganize my books in the time-lapse below:

Would you ever give rainbow order a chance? Or is it just too impractical for you?

If you missed the announcement above, Audible is now a sponsor of this blog. You can grab your own free audiobook by going to audibletrial.com/rebecca! Enjoy a book on me.

Let me know which one you choose in the comments below.

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In Happiness, My Journal on
June 25, 2015

The Imperfect Me – Comparing Myself to Others

Comparison is the thief of joy,

Recently one of my favorite vloggers, BubzBeauty, released a video on being imperfect. I thought it was so moving that I had to share it with you and open up a discussion about the topic.

 

I feel like as women we put so much pressure on ourselves to be perfect or to be more like someone else. It’s a hard cycle to break out of, especially when a lot of the media we read and watch has to do with appearances. This video was a good eye opener on the topic, especially Bubz’s comparison of a cheese grater to an apple slicer. It was a great metaphor in regards to what we do and say to ourselves.

And it’s not just about beauty. I’m a victim of comparing my current status in my life and career to others. I tell myself all these weird reasons as to why I’m not good enough, like the fact that I don’t have as much in my savings as I want to. That’s just not a normal way to judge my character.

What I should do is be nicer to myself. I shouldn’t beat myself up over the fact that after a really stressful day I didn’t feel like working out. I shouldn’t think I’m not good enough because I had to deplete a lot of my savings while I was unemployed. I’ve been on an amazing journey, both physically and emotionally. I have grown up in so many ways and have become a much stronger and better person than I was in the past. That is a wonderful thing that I should be celebrating.

So I have a little challenge for you and myself to follow. This is based on an older post, My Top Tip For Starting a Positive Outlook.

How to stop comparing yourself to others

To become aware of all of the times we compare ourselves to others, we need to acknowledge the feelings as they come and then create rebuttal statements so we can let that comparison go.

For example, if you think..

  • She has a much slimmer waist than I do.

Add to the end of that statement something good about yourself. It now becomes…

  • She has a much slimmer waist than I do but I like my larger waist line because the curves look awesome in my bikini.

By creating positive rebuttal statements we are taking away the power that the beginning of the sentence has on us. But be weary, don’t let rebuttal statements turn you into a mean girl.

Bad example of a rebuttal statement:

  • She has a much slimmer waist than I do but my ass looks a hell of a lot better than hers.

That is not a positive statement because you are tearing someone else down with it. Be careful not to fall into that trap.

What are you going to celebrate about yourself? What kind of rebuttals can you come up with? Let’s talk about our wonderful strengths in the comments.

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In Happiness, Tips on
June 18, 2015

Tough Topics: Feeling Judged for Your Interests

 

Hello my Kind Friends. Today I’m sharing with you my third video in the series Tough Topics. If you missed the first two sessions, check them out here: Are you ready to lose your virginity? | “No one understands me!”

On the topic of being judged for your thoughts and interests, I’m going into the three things I consider when being forced to deal with this kind of scenario.

1. Confidence is the number one long term solution.

If you love yourself and what you are doing, it doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks. You are stuck with yourself until death so you should be the number one priority. I’m not saying it isn’t still going to suck if people are mean to you because it likely will but overtime you’ll see the value that believing in yourself brings.

2. If someone is horrible to you because of how you feel or what you love, they are most likely not someone you should spend your time with.

Even if it’s your family. Family isn’t just blood, it’s who you decide to share your soul with. Some people aren’t welcoming so don’t share your soul with them. In certain situations you have to be around people that are hurtful and judge you just for being yourself, keep them at arms length.

Advice for people feeling judged over their lifestyle and beliefs.

3. It is possible to be friends with someone even if they don’t get every aspect of you and your interests. 

It is totally okay if this happens. My husband does not understand my obsession with non-canon Harry Potter stories. Ha! As long as you have more important things in common, like both of you having a kind soul, then it’s okay if you have a lot of differences. Opposites can actually attract, whether it be in friendship or in romance. The core of a person matters more than their interests. So, keep the people with you that can look past what they like and don’t like.

I hope this video is helpful to you all! You all mean the world to me.

What interests or beliefs have people looked down on you for? 

For me, I have a lot of silly interests that make me truly happy – like children’s games and odd romantic fictional pairings. But there are a few other parts of me that I don’t share often because I get judged because of it. There are some things, like the fact that I don’t believe in a higher power, that I generally only share with people after they get to know me because I’ve been shunned in the past because of it.

I’m opening up to you here. I hope you still see the real me despite it.

In Happiness, My Journal on
June 3, 2015

Feeling Connected to Music: My Power Song

 

Do you ever just need a little extra energy? When I’m feeling like my motivation is low, I turn on this 7 minute remix and dance/sing my heart out. It isn’t a pretty sight but it has been my go-to energizer for years. I hope it helps give you that same energy and excitement when you need it.

Florrie – Call 911 (Fred Falke Remix) Lyrics

Call 911, she’s on the run (x7)

We’re gonna get on your bike
All the girls they wanna take a ride
Never one to wanna compromise
I’m the chase and you’re my FBI
Not gonna get you off your head
Don’t you wanna take a ride instead?
Just remember every word I said
Baby, blow it, bang bang you’re dead

Are you ticking down the line like a time bomb?
Are you picking up the pace, got your face on?
Are you making my escape, get away from?
Are you calling in the chase, wanna race some?

I crack the code
Are you watching me, baby, lose control?
I’m running that, gonna go crazy
Gotta get, gotta get, gotta get, gotta get
Gotta go home, home

(Chorus x2)
Gotta go, I’ve blown another name
Boy, take a seat, let me explain
Don’t break the chain
Come get your beat back in the game
Gotta put my foot down, switching lanes
Sensation pumping through my veins
Let’s go again
I got your back so let it rain

Call 911, she’s on the run (x8)

I’ll meet you on a Friday night
Play the game, we’re gonna keep this tight
Listen up, we’ll get ’em on your side
Reel it in, then, baby, then you play it back
Undercover, keep your head
Kinda like a bit of infra-red
Just remember, no, you won’t forget
Baby, blow it, bang bang you’re dead

Are you ticking down the line like a time bomb?
Are you picking up the pace, got your face on?
Are you making my escape, get away from?
Are you calling in the chase, wanna race some?

I crack the code
Are you watching me, baby, lose control?
I’m running that, gonna go crazy
Gotta get, gotta get, gotta get, gotta get
Gotta go home, home

(Chorus x2)
Gotta go, I’ve blown another name
Boy, take a seat, let me explain
Don’t break the chain
Come get your beat back in the game
Gotta put my foot down, switching lanes
Sensation pumping through my veins
Let’s go again
I got your back so let it rain

Call 911, she’s on the run (x8)

You’re playing with fire
This love, love, was running from the start
For love, desire
This love, love, let it break my heart (x2)

Are you ticking down the line like a time bomb?
Are you picking up the pace, got your face on?
Are you making my escape, get away from?
Are you calling in the chase, wanna race some?

I crack the code
Are you watching me, baby, lose control?
I’m running that, gonna go crazy
Gotta get, gotta get, gotta get, gotta get
Gotta go home, home

(Chorus x2)
Gotta go, I’ve blown another name
Boy, take a seat, let me explain
Don’t break the chain
Come get your beat back in the game
Gotta put my foot down, switching lanes
Sensation pumping through my veins
Let’s go again
I got your back so let it rain

Call 911, she’s on the run (x8)

In Happiness, My Journal on
May 20, 2015

The Importance of Writing Down Your Memories

Why you should keep a diary of important events...

I think the favorite thing about my blog and my videos is that they are little memory boxes for me to look back to. I have grown so much in these past five years and that growth is immortalized in this space.

But even with my personal posts on RebeccaKelsey.com, there are pieces of my life that I forget to capture. Little things that I forget to record. I feel the weight of those missing memories every now and again.

Because I wanted to remember every detail of my November wedding, one of my goals for April was to finish my diary wedding album. The album I used had little spaces next to each photo to write details and dates, so I used that space to make a running diary of my wedding. The album was fairly large so I put together photos from every wedding event, from my dress fitting to my honeymoon. I filled every space I could, even mentioning how Chris had impulsively shaved his beard a few weeks before the wedding and regretted it immediately.

My favorite part about our wedding wasn’t the ceremony itself, it was all of the tiny moments like Chris’ beard and the fact that me and the bridesmaids had to hide parked behind a dumpster when we arrived because Chris and his groomsmen were running late and got to the parking lot seconds before us.

One of my upcoming goals is to create a home diary/album sharing our journey to becoming homeowners. I want to remember how difficult it was to get our first place and how cute our starter furniture was. I want to write down how all of our friends and family came over the first day to help us pack, how we woke up the next day at 6 AM —  so excited to start our first full day in our new home, and even better that I slid down our stairs (I’ve always wanted stairs) on a packing box and fell on my butt. I don’t think those are the moments I’d remember 10 years down the road.

These little moments make the big ones more special, you have to write them down (or vlog them) to keep them fresh and with you forever.