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In Tips, Writing on
November 12, 2015

5 Tips For: New Writers

5 tips to help new writers get started

Hello, Kind Friends! Today I am sharing with you the first of my new series, 5 Tips For. I have three of these articles planned for this month so I hope you enjoy the content. This post will feature five writing tips, as I know that is something a lot of my readers are pursuing right now with NaNoWriMo.

If you haven’t been to my blog before, my name is Rebecca and I have been a blogger for over five years now, pursing more creative writing since 2013, and have been working as a freelance writer during this past year. Since I started working more closely with my writing, I’ve noticed very obvious improvements in my work so I wanted to share with you the tips that helped me get to where I am now.

A video sharing this info:

 

My Top Five Tips for Writers:

  1. Don’t take all advice too seriously. What works for one author or copywriter may not work for you and that’s okay.
  2. Write as many kinds of writing forms as you can. Try poetry, novellas, personal essays, copywriting, write a movie review, etc. until you find what type of content makes you feel the most excited to write.
  3. Try all kinds of writing software and techniques. Write in notebooks, use Novlr, try Scrivener, Evernote, Google Drive, etc. until you find what makes you feel the most productive and inspired.
  4. Read the content you want to produce. It’s difficult to write about a genre that you don’t have experience reading.
  5. Have a quote, goal, or person you admire to help guide your writing journey. This will help keep you focused over time.

I also want to put in a little shout out here for Kiera Cass, the author of The Selection Series, her YouTube channel has always inspired me.

Good luck to everyone working on novels this month for NaNoWriMo! You are on a really fun path right now, I applaud you.

My NaNoWriMo videos – NaNo Week 1 Thoughts | The NaNoWriMo tag

Have you come across any writing tips that have really helped you? Share them in the comments so we can try them out ourselves.

[I could not find the original image sources for the collage in this post, if you know the original photographer, let me know so I can credit them.]

In Happiness, Tips on
June 18, 2015

Tough Topics: Feeling Judged for Your Interests

 

Hello my Kind Friends. Today I’m sharing with you my third video in the series Tough Topics. If you missed the first two sessions, check them out here: Are you ready to lose your virginity? | “No one understands me!”

On the topic of being judged for your thoughts and interests, I’m going into the three things I consider when being forced to deal with this kind of scenario.

1. Confidence is the number one long term solution.

If you love yourself and what you are doing, it doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks. You are stuck with yourself until death so you should be the number one priority. I’m not saying it isn’t still going to suck if people are mean to you because it likely will but overtime you’ll see the value that believing in yourself brings.

2. If someone is horrible to you because of how you feel or what you love, they are most likely not someone you should spend your time with.

Even if it’s your family. Family isn’t just blood, it’s who you decide to share your soul with. Some people aren’t welcoming so don’t share your soul with them. In certain situations you have to be around people that are hurtful and judge you just for being yourself, keep them at arms length.

Advice for people feeling judged over their lifestyle and beliefs.

3. It is possible to be friends with someone even if they don’t get every aspect of you and your interests. 

It is totally okay if this happens. My husband does not understand my obsession with non-canon Harry Potter stories. Ha! As long as you have more important things in common, like both of you having a kind soul, then it’s okay if you have a lot of differences. Opposites can actually attract, whether it be in friendship or in romance. The core of a person matters more than their interests. So, keep the people with you that can look past what they like and don’t like.

I hope this video is helpful to you all! You all mean the world to me.

What interests or beliefs have people looked down on you for? 

For me, I have a lot of silly interests that make me truly happy – like children’s games and odd romantic fictional pairings. But there are a few other parts of me that I don’t share often because I get judged because of it. There are some things, like the fact that I don’t believe in a higher power, that I generally only share with people after they get to know me because I’ve been shunned in the past because of it.

I’m opening up to you here. I hope you still see the real me despite it.

In Happiness, Tips on
April 1, 2015

5 Easy Ways To De-Stress

5 Tips for Dealing with Stress

Hi Kind Friends!

As you know, I’m in a bit of a stressful situation right now. Being unemployed isn’t easy, even if you are lucky enough to have as supportive of a family as I do. To combat the stressors I’m feeling right now, I’ve added these five easy activities into my daily life.

A video sharing all five of my favorite stress relief tips:

 

5 Easy Ways to De-Stress:

  1. Add more fitness (especially cardio) into your daily routine. My current stretching and yoga routine is from ElleFitActive.com.
  2. Have some “me time.” Whatever it is that you like to do when there is extra time in the day, make it a priority to do no matter what. For me I like to do some all natural face masks, journaling, and reading.
  3. Spend at least five minutes with nature every day. Take your pet on a walk around the block!
  4. Take a nap. I always feel refreshed after my dreams take a wack at my problems.
  5. Cuddle or hug whoever is available. The power of touch is monumental. If no one is around, a fuzzy blanket paired with a Netflix marathon will do.

Let me know in the comments how you combat stress. Unexpectedly talking about how I combat stress felt very stress relieving!

In Happiness, Tips on
August 19, 2014

How I #ShakeItOff

Hi Kind Friends!

Yesterday Taylor Swift revealed a new single and music video for the song Shake It Off, as well as the name and release date for her new album 1989. Good year, if you ask me.

 

I really enjoyed the message behind the video so I made a how-to on omghow based on it! See how to shake it off below.

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1. “That’s what people say”

Who cares if people talk about you behind your back?! Those aren’t the kind of people you would want to be associated with so their opinion is just invalid. Feel sorry for them instead. They must be nuts if they don’t see how awesome you are.

2. “But I keep cruising
Can’t stop, won’t stop moving
It’s like I got this music
In my mind, saying it’s gonna be alright”

One of the most important ways to shake it off is to have something in you that keeps you going. What empowers you? Why do you get up in the morning? For Taylor it’s the music. For me, it’s my family. Find your strength and draw on it when you need to shake off negativity.

3. “Cause the players gonna play, play, play
And the haters gonna hate, hate, hate”

You can’t change people! The people that hate on you are going to do so no matter what. Even if you “change” what bothers them, they will find something else to pick at. If you can’t change their opinion, why bother with it?

4. “Hey, hey, hey
Just think while you been getting down and out about the liars
And the dirty dirty cheats of the world
You could have been getting down to this sick beat”

By giving the gossipers, haters, and players power – you are taking away precious time that could have instead been used for happiness. Don’t let them waste your time.

I hope these tips help you learn how to shake it off! Worry not about what you can’t control.

If you are reading this, leave me a comment saying how you deal with negative people and situations. 
In Happiness, Tips on
August 2, 2014

How to Be Okay When Moving to a New City

Hi Kind Friends!

Today I have a special video from omghow (the site officially left beta a few days ago). I love the message behind it and wanted to share it with you.

 

Moving is incredibly stressful, especially when you are young and will be leaving your school and all of your friends behind. In this video omghow worked on showing different ways you can adjust to your new home while also sharing it’s empowering message, girls helping other girls. Empowerment is so important and when the media is constantly bringing people down, it can be hard to foster a helpful environment online. omghow is working hard to keep that helpfulness and comradery among girls alive on their how-to website.

If you re reading this: Let me know in the comments what advice has stuck with you this past year?

One message that I’ve been thinking about a lot is from this quote below. I don’t know the original sources are for this first image, so let me know if you do. The second one is from Birds and Sirens.

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Growth is painful. Change is painful. But nothing is as painful as staying stuck somewhere you don’t belong. This quote was also featured in my July Favorites.

In the spirit of helping others I wanted to share this with you. It has been driving me a lot this past month.

Make sure to check out the description box of the video, it has a giveaway!

 

 

In Tips on
July 8, 2014

Tough Topics – Sex and Virginity

Are you ready to lose your virginity?
Today I’m doing a very different kind of video, an advice video on sex. This video is more intended for my younger high school and college viewers but it could be interesting no matter what your age. Who wouldn’t want to know about my opinions on sex?! Ha, yes this is a little weird for me too.

Now, let’s get serious.

Sex is an important part of every adult’s life. As such, I feel like it should be entered into with some care. In the below video I talk about my opinion on when you should/should not have sex and then about the age I was when I lost my virginity.

Disclaimer: I am in no way judging those that have had multiple partners or don’t follow the same lifestyle that I do. To be frank, I don’t think any of my friends practice what I’ve told you in this video. What you decide to do with your body is a personal decision.

Should you lose your virginity?

Consider this….

  1. Would you be willing to have this person’s accidental baby?
  2. Would this person be there for you if an accident were to happen?
  3. Can you have a mature conversation with them about sex?
  4. Do you have protection?

For the risk of sounding incredibly cheesy, I think you should also have deep feelings for this person. You can’t get your virginity back so it should be given to someone who deserves it.

As for my personal experience, I lost my virginity to my fiance when I was a sophomore in high school. I in no way regret that I shared this with him but at the same time I do think I was too young to understand what I was doing. Later on we did talk more about it but I think we should have talked more seriously about sex before entering into it. For more on my thoughts on this, make sure you watch the above video.

What is your opinion? What kind of “Tough Topics” videos would you like me to do in the future?

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In Fashion, Tips on
January 28, 2014

My Tips for a Happy and Healthy Amount of Clothing

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For some reason I’m having a hard time starting this post! This intro just isn’t working. So, let’s just jump into everything and skip my sad attempts at intros.

My closet was cluttered. It honestly still could be less cluttered even after decluttering it. But, I’m so happy with all the progress I made in the decluttering department recently. I filmed the whole process of going through my closet so you can check it out below. 

My new rules for a happy and healthy amount of clothing: 

  1. If your clothes don’t fit you, let them go. 
  2. If your clothes don’t make you feel special or happy about who you are, let them go.
  3. In contradiction to tip two, keep one (and only one) outfit for when you want to curl up and sleep in a frumpy mess. 
  4. Have clothing for sexy occasions, you never know when they will come up!
  5. Have one funeral appropriate outfit, you never know when they will come up.
  6. If you don’t do your laundry for three weeks and you still a variety of clothing, you probably have too many clothing items.
  7. If you don’t do your laundry for one week and then run out of clothing entirely, you might have too little clothing.

Another rule I’m adding for myself is to buy used as often as possible. It’s one of my resolutions for 2014 and I’m very happy with how far I’ve gone in that regard so far. My favorite place to shop the past few months has been Plato’s Closet, a thrift store where you can also sell your old clothing. Seriously, if you have one in your city then you have to check it out. The only clothing items I don’t buy used now are shoes and underwear. 

Speaking of underwear, stay tuned for a Victoria’s Secret haul!

What do you need to declutter from your life? Let me know in the comments. It could be clothing, DVDs, or even people.

I have a long way to go but I’m really happy with all my progress so far. 

Related: My First Declutter Vlog

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